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I am getting married in 113 days.

To you that may seem like a long time from now, but I assure you to me it is not. Actually the ticking clock in the back of my head has grown rather loud lately, and so I decided to get back to writing my blog and chronicle a bit of the process of getting married here in Costa Rica.

I run a small hotel in Jacó, Costa Rica, though I’m originally from Canada. I have been with my partner in crime for over 16 years – in fact we are highschool sweethearts – and we already have a 2 year old son who was born here (see my posts about Having a baby in Costa Rica and Preparing to have a baby in Costa Rica ). So it surprises many when we tell them that we are not already married. Well, there are a few reasons for that. First, we just kind of never got around to it. When you’ve been with the same person for all of your adult (and part of your teenage) life, it is easy to put getting married on the back burner. We had so many other things we wanted to do. We opened a record store, went to university and college, and then went back to school to study other things. We wanted to travel as much as possible. And weddings are damn expensive, especially in a big city like Toronto Canada, where we’re from.

The wedding industry is a complex, multi-billion dollar a year business, and even if you want something simple it is pretty hard to avoid paying thousands and thousands of dollars for just one day. A good friend of mine did hers DIY to a tee, and still spent over $10,000. They say the average wedding now costs around $30,000 which is crazy to me – I look at that kind of money and think “downpayment on a house” not “one special day”.

So why even get married at this point? I too have mulled this over many times. And maybe it isn’t the smartest thing to do. Though we have found the cost of getting married here in Costa Rica is significantly less (which we’ll get in to in more detail in the following posts), there are still thousands of dollars to be spent.

But we deserve this. I look at us and think: wow – look at how much we’ve been through together, how many times we could have given up but worked at it to keep going. I think this is a good reason to get married. I think there are so many people who rush into marriage without truly knowing who that person is at their best and worst. We know that and we make each other better. That is a good reason to get married. We are each other’s best friends, we are learning and growing together, and we make each other laugh. Really I could go on and on….and I just really love weddings.

A big part of it is I can’t wait to celebrate with all my best friends and family, here in our new home, to show them why we’re here, and to extend our relationship to include those vows. Plus I think it will be pretty special for our son to see his parents get married.

Anyway, I’ve gotten my head in the clouds too quickly. My idea of writing this stuff down in my blog was to get my feet on the ground and get cracking on some of the important things that need to get done. Only 113 days!

So in the following posts you can expect to hear about:

Getting overwhelmed on Pinterest and wedding blogs

Finding a wedding dress that I don’t hate

Dealing with venues: important questions to ask (and take notes about!)

Being your own wedding planner (the pro’s and con’s of frugal brides)

DIY’s – we are making napkins, table runners, table number pineapples, marquee sign etc..

Getting the proper paper work in order for your legal marriage

Getting in shape for the big day (ie: fitting into that dress!)

ETC ETC.

So join me on this journey toward wedded bliss – or bridezilla nightmare – whatever may come.

Qué será, será.

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The Pura Vida Project

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We just got back from Canada and have landed back into our lives in Costa Rica.
I think being away from your day to day life, and being somewhat back in the life that you had before in another place gives you a lot of perspective – something I’ve been needing lately.

Today, coming back to the warmth, to the humid air, the plants, the sun, the water, the beautiful smells, the lack of concrete, the spanish language floating over airwaves while people double-riding bikes and ladies smiling on the side of the road distill for me the lifestyle I have chosen. Pura Vida is a thing here. It’s not just a cheesy tourist phrase.

I moved here with the intention of paring down, simplifying, and in the process, searching for my true path, passion, and self. I have made some big changes in this beautiful country, but I need to make some more, to challenge myself and to feel more present and mindful in each and every day. I need spirituality. I need artistic expression. I need to improve my languages and interactionas with the people I meet.

I need to cook as it is a great passion of mine, and give it my full attention with planning and organizing. Today I got to go to the feria, to fill my basket with delicious fruits and veggies, to see my old friends (and recieve awesome gifts) and to nod at those who are always there, but whom I haven’t yet gotten to know. I want to get to know my town better, to become involved and to help do good here in some way. I know I can find it, I just need to make some connections, some friends.

I want to become reliant on myself for as much as I can. To take responsibility and to become more disciplined in taking care of my body (food – excercise – mind – personal time)
and make a commitment to love myself each day. I want to do yoga, and to join a class and make it a daily practice.

I want to be a Conscious Parent, to be connected to my son and to take care of him both physically and mentally as best I can. I want to enjoy my time with him, to prioritize him and give him my full attention. I want to learn as much as I can about myself, looking to him as a mirror and being cognizant of my issues.

I want to do as good a job as I can in the office and with guests here at the hotel. I want to get one important thing done each day, no matter how slow it is. In the high season, I want to be everywhere and anywhere I am needed. I want to communincate with the guests and with our staff on a more fluid level.

I want to live the life that I have dreamed. I know it’s only a few short steps away, I feel that some days I am already there. I just need to be more confident and trusting, less sorry for myself, that I am busy or stressed.

My body has the power of the universe inside. Everyday is important. It is time for me to use that power to transoform my mind and live the Pure Life I was meant to have.